Host:  Sam Beamer … Samctuary@aol.com … Mission Statement … Love of My Life 

Fireproof … “Never Leave Your Partner Behind” 

One Picture is Worth a Thousand Words … Unfortunately, until Fireproof comes out on September 26, 2008, we’ll have to settle for 1,000 words.

Life matters seem as timeless as true love.  Pilate:  What is Truth?  Haddaway:  What is Love?  A Night at the Roxbury or the honor code of a chivalrous cavalry?  Does True Love exist or does it only happen in the movies?  Tough questions about the meaning of life are already answered in our hearts.  For validation, one might ponder upon Making Choices and Professor Kreeft’s “pearl of great price.”  While Professor Kreeft’s approach is somewhat different than Mr. Cosby’s “call outs” on personal accountability, sex, drugs, gangs, language or rap, the crux of their causes bears many similarities.  According to Professor Kreeft, “Music is like images:  it communicates more powerfully than words … In fact, the tradition says that in music or by music the worlds were created … I suspect that if Jesus were teaching today he would produce great movies and TV shows.  His parables were really little mental movies.  They were not only pictures, but moving pictures.”  Needless to say, when it comes to “moving pictures,” it’s easy to treasure such classics as The Ten Commandments, Quo Vadis and The Passion of the Christ.  Yet, even though some of our other treasures are rare and at times, questionable, they seem to be in a class all of their own:  Inherit the Wind, A Man for All Seasons, The Alamo, Remember the Titans, Mr. Holland’s Opus, Ghost, Awakenings, Angles in the Outfield, City of Angels, What Dreams May Come, Patch Adams, The Chronicles of Narnia, Bella, Walt Disney’s Enchanted and Ben Stein’s Expelled … With movies and all media having such a powerful impact on our culture, perhaps we need the magical MO of Bill Murray’s Groundhog Day to awake traditional practical preaching on true love, fidelity, beauty, swans, left or right, good or bad, priceless and worthless, wise or educated, pearls and swine or all other perils in life.  Ya think?       

Needless to say, because True Love is Eternal, so is our quest for True Love, even at the movies.  Fireproof promises to be yet another movie about True Love—yet, if the ending does justice to the Hope presented by the movie, Fireproof might be one of the most SPECIAL movies of our times.  After all, the crux of the movie is right on target with the #1 Enemy & Danger to all children, singles, marriages and elders—adulteration of our souls and nation through faulty media trends & no-fault divorce or custody laws.  To date, our enslavement is as obvious as the con-fusion created by faulty optics, sound bites and laws.  Warning & Disclaimer:  Although “Adultery” will be mentioned ad nauseam, its repetition will not be as frequent as the questionable mention of KKK in Bowfinger where proof of the real con is not in the movie but in Hollywood’s way of life.  

THE LAW

One need not be a religious, psychological or legal scholar to comprehend God’s Commandment against Adultery.  By now, too many of us already experienced the pain and damages from adultery in our own lives or in the lives of our relatives and society.  With mental adultery being a precursor to physical adultery, facts of life confirm Jesus’ laws and warnings about adultery.  

Teaching about Adultery: … “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you, everyone who looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Mt. 5:27-28

Sayings about Divorce: … “Everyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and the one who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery.” Lk 16:18

A Woman Caught in Adultery: … “’Let the one among you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.’  Again he bent down and wrote on the ground. And in response, they went away one by one, beginning with the elders.  So he was left alone with the woman before him.  Then Jesus straightened up and said to her, ‘Woman, where are they?  Has no one condemned you?’  She replied, ‘No one, sir.’  Then Jesus said, ‘Neither do I condemn you.  Go, [and] from now on do not sin any more.’” Jn 8:7-11

Those who are hard of hearing or heart and mind, will usually do the opposite—they will ”go, [and] continue to sin.”  For those situations, Jesus also has a solution.  Jesus: A Cause of Division: ”Do not think that I have come to bring peace upon the earth.  I have come to bring not peace but the sword.  For I have come to set a man ‘against his father, a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law-against her mother-in-law; and one’s enemies will be those of his household.’” Mt 10:34-36 

THE PROBLEM 

Moral Disorders (Excerpts from 1 Cor 5) … “But I now write to you not to associate with anyone named a brother, if he is immoral, greedy, an idolater, a slanderer, a drunkard, or a robber, not even to each with such a person … ‘Purge the evil person from your midst.’”  Regrettably, instead of “purging” toxic behaviors, our laws and attitudes enable and empower addictions, abuse, abandonment and adultery.   Ever since civil and religious laws such as No-fault, gets and declarations of nullity gave empowerment to adulterous geeks, “The strong do as they can … The weak must suffer.”  According to Rabbi Shuley Boteach, cheating dishonors the cheater & the spouse.  Some men cheat because “They can-so they do.  And they have no morals, religious beliefs, or sense of commitment to stop them.”  As for women, “they wouldn’t take someone’s watch or kidnap their children, but they believe it’s socially acceptable to steal another woman’s husband … In addition to being immoral and deeply hurtful to one’s spouse, cheating deprives a husband of the greatest erotic pleasure that marriage has to offer.” 

To date, lack of private, religious, professional and public admonition of adultery prevents help and creates graver risks for perpetrators as well as for the victims.  To make matters worse, protection for our children and separation from caustic parents, mates, leaders or laws is usually not an option mostly because majority of states eliminated protective laws of fault-based divorce and allowed hostile social trends to mute and damage conservative ideologies within all vital aspects of our society.  As Judeo-Christian values continue to be overruled by modern laws, psychology & media, ethical empowerment continues to be a rare commodity.  Oddly, even though most traditionalists have already addressed the hatred and degradation of traditional values and people in the public forum, most continue to ignore such damages and their devastation in private homes—yet, to be betrayed, abused or abandoned by a “loved one” is much more heinous and painful than to be betrayed or violated by a friend or a stranger.  As such, why would most leaders give the “evil twin” the silent treatment and treat the private side of our society’s family Crisis as the proverbial third rail?    

The answer is obvious, tragic and frightening.  While experts tend to focus and fault our society’s family Crisis on poor marital preparation or parenting, accidentally on purpose they omit culpability of their laws, trends and abuses.  After all, when children are groomed into dysfunctional behaviors from childhood, even the best marriage courses will fail to correct years of toxic ideas or habits, especially when toxic behaviors continue to be validated in private and in public.  Likewise, even though Christie Brinkley was fortunate to validate her integrity, receive sole custody of her children and a just financial settlement, majority of divorced people will not.  As such, any spouse attempting to help their mate or children is destined to fail because shared custody forces parents to care for their children without needed integrity or authority and in time, even the best of parents become negligent while children have to settle for physical protection without vital spiritual guidance for their entire lives.  To add insult to injury, most causes of relationship problems and No-fault divorces are created by No-fault laws.  After all, both spouses were good enough, smart enough, attractive enough and important enough to marry in the first place.  Most of us intended to stay married for life.  What has changed?  Are scorned, victimized divorced parents acting ridiculous or are they being forced to obey unjust and ridiculous laws which leave them in helpless agony?  If people could get justice in the privacy of Family Courts, why would countless victims have to beg for justice from shows like Oprah, Maury, Springer, Dr. Phil, the Internet, or through a grassroots movement reminiscent of the Underground Railroad?  Why are millions being ignored or overruled by relatively few luminaries or mocked, brutalized, silenced and rendered helpless by the con-fused court of public opinion?  While Catholics are beginning to have better media exposure than in the past, public figures like Mr. O’Reilly, Ms. Ingraham and Mr. Hannity mostly focus on political issues while catholic print media, internet, radio and television networks like EWTN mostly focus on religious issues.  Consequently, even though all of the above programming serves an important role in our society, none of them address our society’s family Crisis in its entirety.  As such, instead of helping, resultant disconnection caused by differing agendas actually fuels the wildfires of misinformation, con-fusion, helplessness and damages to individuals, families, faith and society.  If a giant like the Catholic faith is falling, risk to other traditional religions and followers is even graver.      

Needless to say, cultural differences between Amish, Muslim or Catholic faiths are quite obvious.  Likewise, the nature of forced marriages is much different than voluntary marriages.  Nonetheless, considering that reconciliation or faithful separation would be more beneficial to all troubled marriages, why are so many spouses big fans of serial divorces and remarriages.  Even countless Catholics seem to falsify or skip decrees of nullity and opt for alternative lifestyles or remarriage.  “To those who rationalize attendance at the ceremony or reception by saying that this does not mean approval of the adulterous relationship, or that they have expressed their disapproval verbally, we remind them that actions speak louder than words.  How seriously will the couple take the verbal expression of concern when parents or friends are physically present at the wedding?” … “It would be wrong to cooperate in the evil act of adultery that will begin on the invalidly married couple’s wedding night by attending the attempted marriage or the reception. And it would be wrong to let such a couple stay overnight in one’s home” … ”Peace in the family at the expense of following the Gospel is a false peace, one that will never compel the couple to come to grips with the danger of losing their eternal salvation.  Our Lord spoke out against this kind of false peace.” – Catholic Replies, James J. Drummey.  Yet, unless one has the cooperation and love of their mate, laws or trends guarantee that experts will force most of us to ”Peace at Any Price.”  By now, almost all of us have been there and done that!   

THE RESOLUTION

God’s laws are clear & simple … Tragically, most civil and religious laws are as clear as mud.  History and differences between all religions are elementary—by their nature, the Catholic Faith is different from Evangelical, Protestant, Baptist, Jewish and all other faiths.  Nonetheless, even though religious practices will differ and clash, daily practical applications of one’s faith should not.  In fact, Fireproof should prove that basic individual and family needs are one and the same regardless of gender, race, age, status or religious orientation.  As such, lack of consensus on religion-specific ideologies is understandable.  However, lack of consensus from religious leaders and followers on the Commandment against Adultery is irrational and dangerous as hell—most religions have their own set of laws regarding marriage and divorce:  Catholics do not recognize adultery as a valid reason for divorce while others might consider adultery as the major or only valid reason for a divorce.  Unfortunately, because there are grave differences between decrees of nullity issued by the American Catholic Church and Rome, the unconstitutional nature of No-fault divorce enslaves most Catholic families into double-jeopardy.  Consequently, the only means of protecting marriages and children is through addressing the main culprit and point of agreement—ADULTERY.  Adultery is a mortal wound or sin within all traditional religions as well as a grave violation of cultural American values.  Because of our ideologies and proven personal experiences with the vile roots and fruits of adultery, NONE of us have the right to marginalize or invalidate the existence, violations, agony or damages caused by adultery.  Ignoring the major cause of divorces creates endless cycles of abuse as well as inability to protect individuals and families from other violations which are less evident but almost as painful and dangerous.  

After all, what comes first:  the cart or the horse?  “You shall not commit adultery,” comes with an automatic law, order and guarantee that if you do not commit adultery, ”You shall not divorce.”  To argue over laws of separation or divorce without addressing adultery is a waste of human resources and lives.  With all divorces being directly or indirectly rooted within cycles of emotional or mental and physical adultery, there is NO excuse for religious, psychological or legal liberal approval or indifference to adultery.  The heinous nature of adultery is validated within top 10 laws issued by God and it is also verified by the pain and damages within our own spiritual & physical reality.  As such, with religious, emotional, intellectual or physical adultery being the main cause of most divorces, by default of no-fault laws, it is also the main cause of divorce from God for victims and perpetrators.  

Even though countless separated or divorced spouses manage to remain faithful to God and their family, such injustice or suffering is not only inconsolable & unconscionable but also avoidable and therefore, negligent.  With violated adults being deprived of justice, protection of one’s child is not even an option.  In a country where religious & civil freedom is our right, having the right to remain silent and violated is an abomination.  Civil and religious laws are clear:  “Traditional morality forbids cooperating with the evil act of another.”  Unfortunately, shared child custody laws mandate the opposite—violated parents and children must cooperate, enjoy and facilitate with felicity most of the obscenity or grooming from the adulterous spouses as well as pay for all the damages for the rest of their lives.  Social, legal and psychological support for shared custody has created an unprecedented catastrophe for all victims of divorce—ignoring emotional abuse or adultery not only invalidates the suffering of the victims but also empowers the perpetrators to degrade innocent spouses as well as to manipulate their children and the entire “system.”  As such, violated parents are treated with hostility by the perpetrator, family members, friends, coworkers, lawyers, therapists, judges and the court of public opinion.  While all atrocities are highly detrimental, to be innocent yet vilified or mocked in front of one’s child, or in time, to be scorned by one’s own child is a travesty unlike any other—with children and families being the ultimate essence of life, constant rejection from loved ones becomes inconsolable and makes all other endeavors meaningless.

“Hypocrisy is only dangerous when forced upon others without their knowledge or consent.”  Naturally, there is a big difference between misinformation and willful ignorance or enabling of the perpetrators.  As such, only hypocrites, bigots and most of all, sociopaths are highly dangerous.    With tomorrow being promised to no one and with endless con-fusion inflicted upon us daily, resolution of our Crisis is a matter of life and death.  Given proper empowerment, honest religious or non-religious lifestyles revolve around self-discipline and love—contrary to modern bunk about hostile and intolerant traditionalists, hurtful thoughts rarely linger while cruel or violent actions are not an option.  For most conservatives, even self-defense is often sacrificed to help or protect others.  As such, hurting of animals would never be in character much less hurting or betraying one’s “loved ones.”  Although occasional bitterness, justified anger and con-fusion are part of everyone’s life, conflict resolutions may vary—some Catholics’ MO are rounds on their Rosaries while others rely on personalized prayers, psalms, music, psychology or even a mental hug with their child, spouse, parent or friend. 

If truth be told, mere desire to obey God’s Commandments and Constitution might create a safer, saner or cleaner environment than all current laws in the world.  With all that being said, separation of church and state is a figment of someone’s imagination and misinterpretation.  With God being at the foundation of every prayer, decision and action in one’s life, unless one desires to be a moral-schizophrenic, it is humanly impossible to separate God from private and public lives.  Even if such a separation was possible, a country founded upon Judeo-Christian ideologies, should discourage such actions instead of incorporating them into laws.  As such, our current reality is a sad but true confirmation that private or public separation from good or God is an absurdity as well as an impossibility.  Nonetheless, private separation within a dysfunctional relationship or marriage is at times a vital necessity—to protect all children and spouses at risk, a “faithful” separation is a must while a divorce is nothing more than what it was from the beginning—an excuse or law for “hardened hearts” and malicious or adulterous abandonment of one’s responsibility, family and God for the sole purpose of adulteration or remarriage. 

Because a husband and wife create the optimal environment for each other and for creation of life, marriage is for life.  “A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives.  But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whomever she wishes, provided that it be in the Lord.  She is more blessed, though, in my opinion, if she remains as she is, and I think that I too have the Spirit of God.”  1 Cor 7:39-40.  Needless to say, those men and women who wish to remain single for life, also have that option:  “I should like you to be free of anxieties.  An unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how he may please the Lord.  But a married man is anxious about the things of the world, how he may please his wife, and he is divided.” 1 Cor 7:32-34   

“Great & rapid changes in human opinions have been produced far less by the force of reasoning than by the authority of a name.”  No religious or secular scholar can deny that public TV, radio, print media and the “experts” of the AMA, ABA and APA have evolved into Central Intelligence Agencies for our society.  As such, with power comes an even greater responsibility.  If truth be told, this is an offer they can’t refuse!  After all, when our children needed encouragement to expand their horizons, the National Library Association was wise enough to join forces with the producers of Happy Days.  A few words from da Fonz & registration for library cards in America went up 500%.  Naturally, we’re talking of a situation where only a few lines, from one man on one show, brought a phenomenal 500% inspiration & help for all our children.  If our leaders were into US instead of dysfunction or their own agendas, private & social corruption would have been over years ago!  Tragically, the results are in.  “How happy are today’s ‘liberated’ people?”  According to Professor Kreeft, “The best measure is the suicide rate.  Since the 1950’s, the suicide rate among teenagers has gone up 500%.”  Have people and their needs changed or has our private and social environment changed?  One would think that those “experts” or “illluminaries” still clinging to their smoking gun or their ”blame, shame and scam the victims game,” could benefit from a reality check so all their victims finally have someone looking out for them!  After all, just as a coin has two sides, whether we trust in God or whether we trust in the greater common good, a “Wise and Contrite Heart” is the only pill that will cure adultery and all other ills of our society.  ”Hate the Sin and Not the Sinner - Mohandas K. Gandhi.”  Quite obviously, none of our leaders have a valid excuse for hate crimes, con-fusion or continued adulteration of our souls and nation.      

What will it take to end our Crisis?  “The dissenter is every human being at those moments of his life when he resigns momentarily from the herd & thinks for himself.”  Hopefully, with Fireproof as a catalyst for a long awaited intervention it can also become a sparkle for our long overdue progress. 

“The deepest principle of Human Nature is the craving to be appreciated.”  From a religious standpoint, our first priority should be Adoration of God, Jesus or the Holy Trinity and Family.  Our secular priority applies to the same principle: “Honor Your Father and Your Mother.”  Naturally, parental responsibilities towards children speak for themselves:  “Fathers, do not provoke your children in anger, but bring them up with the training and instruction of the Lord.” Eph 6:4 … As such, whether Fireproof  will be viewed as a Catholic Converter or an ignition key to our Social Renaissance, if True Love does triumph at the end of the movie (as it should), incurable romantics might find Fireproof and True Love to be a “match made in heaven.” … Sam Beamer … “Let your love of justice be exceeded only by your love of mercy.”  

 Host: Sam Beamer … Samctuary@aol.com … Mission Statement: … Love of My Life

On a superficial level, Mr. Stossel’s 7-18-08 report on attitudes and laws governing sex appears to be fair and balanced.  Yet, underneath it all, the truth is obvious—the report is a downright clash between “intelligent design” and “sexual intelligence.”  The outcome is tragic:  since not all is fair in war and not all is fair in love, not all is fair in America’s war on sex—physical and intellectual con-fusion interlaced within the inseparable nature of private and public environment has been disastrous.

Should sex be a private matter?  Does our sex-saturated media “corrupt the minds of children and lead to sexually deviant behavior?”   What is the appropriate age for self-abuse and what constitutes fairness in mutual consensual violations between adults?  Can a vibrator be compared to a gun?  Can there be anything remotely honorable or civil about a civil divorce?  Is civil polygamy much different from Catholic polygamy, where a husband has one religious wife for life and one civil wife until he trades her in for a new model?  Is a wife’s adultery or serial divorces and remarriages more honorable and politically correct than polygamy?  What is the main difference between prostitution for money and family prostitution for “lust?”  Since No-fault divorce and custody laws have already created more victims than homosexual marriages, why are religious and secular leaders against homosexual marriages and parenting but not against adulterous marriages and parenting?  

And last but not least, the big I—Infidelity—Is monogamy a myth?  For the segment on monogamy and cheating, Mr. Stossel interviewed advice columnist, Mr. Steve Santagati probably because of his popularity:  “He’s all over TV these days. On ‘Oprah’ and the ‘Today’ show helping women understand men.”

“‘Bad Boys’ Who Cheat Santagati is 44 years old, single and said he never wants to get married or have kids.”  Obviously, not wanting to “get married or have kids,” is no longer the same as not wanting to have sex.  “A bad boy is a guy who’s unapologetically male, loves being naughty, and loves seducing women … His book, ‘The Manual: A True Bad Boy Explains How Men Think, Date, and Mate — and What Women Can Do to Come Out on Top,’ is a best-seller.” … After all, “Sex is the most primal urge in every single one of us.”  Even though traditional views on the pleasures of sex are not much different, traditional lifestyles are.  “God Himself created the first man and woman.  Then, in order to people the earth, He (as it were), shared His creative powers with us.  He gave Adam and Eve the command “Increase and multiply.” (Gen.1:28)  In order to accomplish this, He implanted in them a sacred power which we call the sex passion.  This passion is not a dirty thing.  It is something holy.  It is something good in itself.”  “God placed a very great pleasure in the very organs by which children are conceived … Sex pleasure exists to attract husband and wife to mutual love and to the continuation of the life of the human race.” 

From a purely non-religious standpoint, the same truths are also confirmed by Mother Nature, logic and our own experiences.  By now, all of us know the thrill and the drill—most adults can discern between the surge of thrill derived from the newness of relationships compared to the surge of love derived from stable and loving relationships.  Consequently, for most adults, “First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby in the baby carriage.” 

Similarly, one need not be a religious or secular brainiac to realize that being a single fan of the bad boy and girl mentality, having lots of sex but not wanting to get married or have kids is not natural, good or intelligent.  All the consensual and nonconsensual sex or vibrators in the world will not create or replace an innate need which is more vital and important to us than sex:  love.  Since our need for love is much more powerful than sex, nothing can quench or fulfill our need for love but love.  Unfortunately, after years of toxic media trends and miscarriage of justice caused by No-fault divorce laws, most of us find “the pill” and all other moral ills of our society more natural than our own goods or the greater good of our society.  Consequently, given that damages from the “pill” are similar to damages from cigarettes or trans fats, NOW would be a good time for the AMA, APA, ABA, ABC, CBS & NBC to begin their public service announcements about damages to natural cycles of life, love, families and society.    

Needless to say, when it comes to “America’s War on Sex” and corruption of our children’s minds, one first needs to address corruption of our experts’ minds.  Dr. Klein’s statement speaks for itself:  “Family Research Council Caught Lying About Sexual Doomsday On Camera.”  Dr. Marty Klein is a sociologist, sex therapist and author of “America’s War on Sex.”   His comments are directed at Mr. Peter Sprigg, vice president for policy at the Family Research Council:  “The best part of the show was when host John Stossel confronted Sprigg with the simple, exciting facts of life: over the last ten years, while America has sizzled with internet porn and TV eroticism, the rates of rape, divorce, teen births, and premarital sex have gone DOWN. So how has ‘too much sex in America’ destroyed America? … ‘Right, Peter—people like you (and James Dobson and Laura Bush and the Abstinence Clearinghouse) should stop spreading lies about the social impacts of sexual expression and sexual repression until they have some ‘real studies.’ Until then, stop ‘coarsening our culture’ with your fear tactics, your fund-raising pitches predicting the end of civilization, and your phony support of women and children accompanied by the repression of sex education, contraception, and sexual health care.”

Dr. Klein’s views seem quite popular.  “Marty Klein shows exactly how abstinence-only programs are hurting American kids.  This great new book [America's War on Sex], is a must read for everyone who cares about healthy sexuality.  Sue Johanson, Host of “Talk Sex with Sue Johanson.”   One would think views of Mr. O’Reilly or Ms. Laura Ingraham might be quite different—unfortunately, because most of today’s leaders focus on the political aspects of “Culture Wars,” fair and balanced resolution of our society’s con-fusion continues to be AWOL.  As such, even though whims and trends have temporarily shifted [probably thanks to people like Mr. Sprigg and a legion of others], our society’s family Crisis not only remains a Cat-5 but also one of our nation’s Top Secrets!  To secular progressives, such trends are a blessing—to traditionalists, they’re pure hell! 

Truth, Myths, Lies or Downright Stupidity.  It’s odd.  The possibilities offered by a show like 20/20 to people like Mr. Stossel and Ms. Elizabeth Vargas are as endless as the power of other celebs on ABC, CBS, NBC, FNN, EWTN or COURT and others.  With Mr. Stossel being a self-proclaimed libertarian, will he be the one to liberate our society from enslavement to years of social hypocrisy and damages?  After all, Mr. Stossel has already done an excellent job on all other issues.  One would think that removing the gag order on truth should be in the best interest of Democrats, Republicans and Independents.  A good starting point would be secular-progressive’s song-and-dance-routine lie about conservatives not having the right to impose moral values on our society—-are secular progressives so special that only they have the right to impose their values on our society.  Accidentally on purpose, they have been imposing their immoral and amoral values on all of US for almost half a century—betrayal, con-fusion or exploitation of our youth, self-abuse, abortion, contraception, drugs, cohabitation, adultery, divorce, gets, annulments, remarriage, shared custody, single family homes, dysfunctional parenting, voluntary and enforced fatherlessness or motherlessness, homosexuality, pornography, swinging, degradation of natural human laws, beauty or body, clothing, music, language, arts or education and every other form of physical destruction stemming from 24/7 of private and public brainwashing or insults to our intelligence.  To date, secular progressives do not object to their own imposition of values on our society—they only object to traditionalists having the same rights and empowerment.

It’s quite possible that Mr. Stossel might be one of the privileged few within our society free of pain or able to enjoy his free will and the fruits of his labor:  ”I want government to leave people alone. I think people should be free to do anything they want — as long as they don’t hurt anyone else.”  Obviously, Mr. Stossel is in a similar situation as other leaders—they are either con-fused or misinformed about our government’s culpability in our Crisis—people are not being left alone but defenseless.  In fact, with Family Courts re-engineering individuals, families and society for almost 40 years along with constant damages from our media, people are being hurt, silenced and forced to move on.  Since some were legally forced to give up on principles while others were groomed into dysfunction, a general amnesty is a must.  Naturally, no one individual can be personally accountable for a social Crisis.  Nonetheless, NOW it is as important as ever to end all of our divorces from our own good, each other or for some, God.  No religious or secular “expert” can deny the truth and damages from direct, indirect or enabled abuse of self or abuse of others—with all that being sad and against our innate needs, experience, logic or religion dictate that all of us are almost guaranteed to change before our final swan song—”To cheat one’s self out of love is the greatest deception of which there is NO reparation in either time or eternity.” 

Myth:  “All’s fair in love and war.”

Truth:   “Although Klein does not provide an easy fix to the vexing problems posed by erotophobes, crusaders, the Christian-American Taliban, or religious terrorists,” Catholic-Halo does … Like the Holy Trinity, it’s a 3-pronged approach:  Truth in Private and Public Information, Restoration of Justice in Family Courts and Restoration of Private Empowerment! … Sam Beamer … “Let your love of justice be exceeded only by your love of mercy.”  

 Host: Sam Beamer … Samctuary@aol.com … Mission Statement: … Love of My Life

All of us should be thankful for Ms. Brinkley’s courage to endure the worst crisis of her family’s life in public.  Needless to say, most divorces are too traumatic to bear even in private—as such, aside for her personal reasons, Ms. Brinkley’s decision to divorce in public gave all of us an opportunity to experience the reality of America’s #1 social crisis—years of individual and family damages caused by toxic divorce and media trends.

Despite the positive and just outcome for Ms. Brinkley and her children, death of one’s marriage and family through mental or physical adultery is a crisis unlike any other.  It’s very different from family traumas caused by physical abuse or even by natural death.  Quite possibly, the main reason Ms. Brinkley was able to receive partial justice is due to New York’s fault based divorce laws as opposed to everyone else in America having to suffer the injustice of Unconstitutional No-fault divorce laws.  To make things more unfair, probably even most violated spouses and children in New York State will rarely receive sole custody with final decision-making and mutually satisfactory visitation rights.  Naturally, the financial atrocity that is an innate part of every “average” divorce needs no introduction.  Not only our own families are feeling the financial devastation but so is our entire nation.  Then, if one happens to be a “conservative or a religious parent,” by default of No-fault injustice, the violations will be inhuman and the pain will be inconsolable.  Because only a faithful separation can give any type of protection, dignity and hope to one’s family, ANYONE initiating a divorce, causing a divorce or claiming that divorce is good for any family is either misinformed, indifferent or dysfunctional.  

Our injustice system is quite shocking.  How can family courts claim to serve justice when a family in New York might receive partial justice while a family in an identical situation and agony will never receive justice only because they live in Miami or any town USA outside of New York State.  How can family courts claim to serve justice when rich victims will suffer grave emotional damages while mainstream Americans are guaranteed to suffer emotionally and financially.  How can family courts claim to serve justice when only a privileged few are entitled to regain their integrity, reputation and authority while vast majority of victims never will.  The list of unjust personal, emotional, intellectual, spiritual, financial and physical damages is too long—victims are too many.  Only abandoning, dysfunctional or adulterous spouses claim to feel no pain and “enjoy” hurting, violating & divorcing from their “loved ones.”

By now, the main culprits are quite obvious—for years victims are being treated as vengeful, intolerant, hostile, angry, jealous, money-hungry morons while their adulterous mates are treated as good or at times, heroic fathers or mothers.   To add insult to injury, to date, family courts treat the 3rd most heinous crime in our society as an imaginary or irrelevant bellyache.  Even the “adulterous roots” in the Brinkley/Cook divorce were not fully exposed, explored and resolved.  For victims outside of New York State, the travesty & suffering are much worse—majority of violated parents in America have no choice or voice–for them, the betrayal and the divorce process bear many similarities to Rosemary’s Baby—adulterous spouses, relatives, witnesses, therapists, judges, lawyers & court evaluators have more power over victims and their children than those who should be entitled to justice, dignity, protection and financial stability–the victims.

Thank God Christie and her children had the money, power, popularity and support during their greatest hour of need.  According to Christie, “a mother’s greatest fear is somebody trying to take her children.”  Naturally, all the men violated over the years will confirm by their pain & experience that “a father’s greatest fear is somebody trying to take his children.”  Tragically, with most states considering adultery as ”sinless or no-fault,” adulterous parents have been emboldened by preferential, legal empowerment for almost 40 years—instead of receiving needed psychological or religious help, they receive a legal seal of approval to do almost anything they want with their spouses or children and our society.  How much longer must innocent children and parents suffer and when will enough be enough?  … Sam Beamer … “Let your love of justice be exceeded only by your love of mercy.”