Host: Sam Beamer … Samctuary@aol.com … Mission Statement: … Love of My Life

All of us should be thankful for Ms. Brinkley’s courage to endure the worst crisis of her family’s life in public.  Needless to say, most divorces are too traumatic to bear even in private—as such, aside for her personal reasons, Ms. Brinkley’s decision to divorce in public gave all of us an opportunity to experience the reality of America’s #1 social crisis—years of individual and family damages caused by toxic divorce and media trends.

Despite the positive and just outcome for Ms. Brinkley and her children, death of one’s marriage and family through mental or physical adultery is a crisis unlike any other.  It’s very different from family traumas caused by physical abuse or even by natural death.  Quite possibly, the main reason Ms. Brinkley was able to receive partial justice is due to New York’s fault based divorce laws as opposed to everyone else in America having to suffer the injustice of Unconstitutional No-fault divorce laws.  To make things more unfair, probably even most violated spouses and children in New York State will rarely receive sole custody with final decision-making and mutually satisfactory visitation rights.  Naturally, the financial atrocity that is an innate part of every “average” divorce needs no introduction.  Not only our own families are feeling the financial devastation but so is our entire nation.  Then, if one happens to be a “conservative or a religious parent,” by default of No-fault injustice, the violations will be inhuman and the pain will be inconsolable.  Because only a faithful separation can give any type of protection, dignity and hope to one’s family, ANYONE initiating a divorce, causing a divorce or claiming that divorce is good for any family is either misinformed, indifferent or dysfunctional.  

Our injustice system is quite shocking.  How can family courts claim to serve justice when a family in New York might receive partial justice while a family in an identical situation and agony will never receive justice only because they live in Miami or any town USA outside of New York State.  How can family courts claim to serve justice when rich victims will suffer grave emotional damages while mainstream Americans are guaranteed to suffer emotionally and financially.  How can family courts claim to serve justice when only a privileged few are entitled to regain their integrity, reputation and authority while vast majority of victims never will.  The list of unjust personal, emotional, intellectual, spiritual, financial and physical damages is too long—victims are too many.  Only abandoning, dysfunctional or adulterous spouses claim to feel no pain and “enjoy” hurting, violating & divorcing from their “loved ones.”

By now, the main culprits are quite obvious—for years victims are being treated as vengeful, intolerant, hostile, angry, jealous, money-hungry morons while their adulterous mates are treated as good or at times, heroic fathers or mothers.   To add insult to injury, to date, family courts treat the 3rd most heinous crime in our society as an imaginary or irrelevant bellyache.  Even the “adulterous roots” in the Brinkley/Cook divorce were not fully exposed, explored and resolved.  For victims outside of New York State, the travesty & suffering are much worse—majority of violated parents in America have no choice or voice–for them, the betrayal and the divorce process bear many similarities to Rosemary’s Baby—adulterous spouses, relatives, witnesses, therapists, judges, lawyers & court evaluators have more power over victims and their children than those who should be entitled to justice, dignity, protection and financial stability–the victims.

Thank God Christie and her children had the money, power, popularity and support during their greatest hour of need.  According to Christie, “a mother’s greatest fear is somebody trying to take her children.”  Naturally, all the men violated over the years will confirm by their pain & experience that “a father’s greatest fear is somebody trying to take his children.”  Tragically, with most states considering adultery as ”sinless or no-fault,” adulterous parents have been emboldened by preferential, legal empowerment for almost 40 years—instead of receiving needed psychological or religious help, they receive a legal seal of approval to do almost anything they want with their spouses or children and our society.  How much longer must innocent children and parents suffer and when will enough be enough?  … Sam Beamer … “Let your love of justice be exceeded only by your love of mercy.”