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On a superficial level, Mr. Stossel’s 7-18-08 report on attitudes and laws governing sex appears to be fair and balanced.  Yet, underneath it all, the truth is obvious—the report is a downright clash between “intelligent design” and “sexual intelligence.”  The outcome is tragic:  since not all is fair in war and not all is fair in love, not all is fair in America’s war on sex—physical and intellectual con-fusion interlaced within the inseparable nature of private and public environment has been disastrous.

Should sex be a private matter?  Does our sex-saturated media “corrupt the minds of children and lead to sexually deviant behavior?”   What is the appropriate age for self-abuse and what constitutes fairness in mutual consensual violations between adults?  Can a vibrator be compared to a gun?  Can there be anything remotely honorable or civil about a civil divorce?  Is civil polygamy much different from Catholic polygamy, where a husband has one religious wife for life and one civil wife until he trades her in for a new model?  Is a wife’s adultery or serial divorces and remarriages more honorable and politically correct than polygamy?  What is the main difference between prostitution for money and family prostitution for “lust?”  Since No-fault divorce and custody laws have already created more victims than homosexual marriages, why are religious and secular leaders against homosexual marriages and parenting but not against adulterous marriages and parenting?  

And last but not least, the big I—Infidelity—Is monogamy a myth?  For the segment on monogamy and cheating, Mr. Stossel interviewed advice columnist, Mr. Steve Santagati probably because of his popularity:  “He’s all over TV these days. On ‘Oprah’ and the ‘Today’ show helping women understand men.”

“‘Bad Boys’ Who Cheat Santagati is 44 years old, single and said he never wants to get married or have kids.”  Obviously, not wanting to “get married or have kids,” is no longer the same as not wanting to have sex.  “A bad boy is a guy who’s unapologetically male, loves being naughty, and loves seducing women … His book, ‘The Manual: A True Bad Boy Explains How Men Think, Date, and Mate — and What Women Can Do to Come Out on Top,’ is a best-seller.” … After all, “Sex is the most primal urge in every single one of us.”  Even though traditional views on the pleasures of sex are not much different, traditional lifestyles are.  “God Himself created the first man and woman.  Then, in order to people the earth, He (as it were), shared His creative powers with us.  He gave Adam and Eve the command “Increase and multiply.” (Gen.1:28)  In order to accomplish this, He implanted in them a sacred power which we call the sex passion.  This passion is not a dirty thing.  It is something holy.  It is something good in itself.”  “God placed a very great pleasure in the very organs by which children are conceived … Sex pleasure exists to attract husband and wife to mutual love and to the continuation of the life of the human race.” 

From a purely non-religious standpoint, the same truths are also confirmed by Mother Nature, logic and our own experiences.  By now, all of us know the thrill and the drill—most adults can discern between the surge of thrill derived from the newness of relationships compared to the surge of love derived from stable and loving relationships.  Consequently, for most adults, “First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby in the baby carriage.” 

Similarly, one need not be a religious or secular brainiac to realize that being a single fan of the bad boy and girl mentality, having lots of sex but not wanting to get married or have kids is not natural, good or intelligent.  All the consensual and nonconsensual sex or vibrators in the world will not create or replace an innate need which is more vital and important to us than sex:  love.  Since our need for love is much more powerful than sex, nothing can quench or fulfill our need for love but love.  Unfortunately, after years of toxic media trends and miscarriage of justice caused by No-fault divorce laws, most of us find “the pill” and all other moral ills of our society more natural than our own goods or the greater good of our society.  Consequently, given that damages from the “pill” are similar to damages from cigarettes or trans fats, NOW would be a good time for the AMA, APA, ABA, ABC, CBS & NBC to begin their public service announcements about damages to natural cycles of life, love, families and society.    

Needless to say, when it comes to “America’s War on Sex” and corruption of our children’s minds, one first needs to address corruption of our experts’ minds.  Dr. Klein’s statement speaks for itself:  “Family Research Council Caught Lying About Sexual Doomsday On Camera.”  Dr. Marty Klein is a sociologist, sex therapist and author of “America’s War on Sex.”   His comments are directed at Mr. Peter Sprigg, vice president for policy at the Family Research Council:  “The best part of the show was when host John Stossel confronted Sprigg with the simple, exciting facts of life: over the last ten years, while America has sizzled with internet porn and TV eroticism, the rates of rape, divorce, teen births, and premarital sex have gone DOWN. So how has ‘too much sex in America’ destroyed America? … ‘Right, Peter—people like you (and James Dobson and Laura Bush and the Abstinence Clearinghouse) should stop spreading lies about the social impacts of sexual expression and sexual repression until they have some ‘real studies.’ Until then, stop ‘coarsening our culture’ with your fear tactics, your fund-raising pitches predicting the end of civilization, and your phony support of women and children accompanied by the repression of sex education, contraception, and sexual health care.”

Dr. Klein’s views seem quite popular.  “Marty Klein shows exactly how abstinence-only programs are hurting American kids.  This great new book [America's War on Sex], is a must read for everyone who cares about healthy sexuality.  Sue Johanson, Host of “Talk Sex with Sue Johanson.”   One would think views of Mr. O’Reilly or Ms. Laura Ingraham might be quite different—unfortunately, because most of today’s leaders focus on the political aspects of “Culture Wars,” fair and balanced resolution of our society’s con-fusion continues to be AWOL.  As such, even though whims and trends have temporarily shifted [probably thanks to people like Mr. Sprigg and a legion of others], our society’s family Crisis not only remains a Cat-5 but also one of our nation’s Top Secrets!  To secular progressives, such trends are a blessing—to traditionalists, they’re pure hell! 

Truth, Myths, Lies or Downright Stupidity.  It’s odd.  The possibilities offered by a show like 20/20 to people like Mr. Stossel and Ms. Elizabeth Vargas are as endless as the power of other celebs on ABC, CBS, NBC, FNN, EWTN or COURT and others.  With Mr. Stossel being a self-proclaimed libertarian, will he be the one to liberate our society from enslavement to years of social hypocrisy and damages?  After all, Mr. Stossel has already done an excellent job on all other issues.  One would think that removing the gag order on truth should be in the best interest of Democrats, Republicans and Independents.  A good starting point would be secular-progressive’s song-and-dance-routine lie about conservatives not having the right to impose moral values on our society—-are secular progressives so special that only they have the right to impose their values on our society.  Accidentally on purpose, they have been imposing their immoral and amoral values on all of US for almost half a century—betrayal, con-fusion or exploitation of our youth, self-abuse, abortion, contraception, drugs, cohabitation, adultery, divorce, gets, annulments, remarriage, shared custody, single family homes, dysfunctional parenting, voluntary and enforced fatherlessness or motherlessness, homosexuality, pornography, swinging, degradation of natural human laws, beauty or body, clothing, music, language, arts or education and every other form of physical destruction stemming from 24/7 of private and public brainwashing or insults to our intelligence.  To date, secular progressives do not object to their own imposition of values on our society—they only object to traditionalists having the same rights and empowerment.

It’s quite possible that Mr. Stossel might be one of the privileged few within our society free of pain or able to enjoy his free will and the fruits of his labor:  ”I want government to leave people alone. I think people should be free to do anything they want — as long as they don’t hurt anyone else.”  Obviously, Mr. Stossel is in a similar situation as other leaders—they are either con-fused or misinformed about our government’s culpability in our Crisis—people are not being left alone but defenseless.  In fact, with Family Courts re-engineering individuals, families and society for almost 40 years along with constant damages from our media, people are being hurt, silenced and forced to move on.  Since some were legally forced to give up on principles while others were groomed into dysfunction, a general amnesty is a must.  Naturally, no one individual can be personally accountable for a social Crisis.  Nonetheless, NOW it is as important as ever to end all of our divorces from our own good, each other or for some, God.  No religious or secular “expert” can deny the truth and damages from direct, indirect or enabled abuse of self or abuse of others—with all that being sad and against our innate needs, experience, logic or religion dictate that all of us are almost guaranteed to change before our final swan song—”To cheat one’s self out of love is the greatest deception of which there is NO reparation in either time or eternity.” 

Myth:  “All’s fair in love and war.”

Truth:   “Although Klein does not provide an easy fix to the vexing problems posed by erotophobes, crusaders, the Christian-American Taliban, or religious terrorists,” Catholic-Halo does … Like the Holy Trinity, it’s a 3-pronged approach:  Truth in Private and Public Information, Restoration of Justice in Family Courts and Restoration of Private Empowerment! … Sam Beamer … “Let your love of justice be exceeded only by your love of mercy.”