Host: Sam Beamer … Samctuary@aol.com … Mission Statement: … Love of My Life

Pro-choice? … Except for Rare Stable Marriages, our society has only 2 options:  Family Prostitution or Family Persecution. 

Currently, Family Protection is not an option … Common sense would dictate that honorable spouses will always opt for faithfulness to their marital vows and protection of their loved ones—dysfunctional or morally ill spouses will always opt for mental or physical adultery and abortion of their family through divorce or annulment and remarriage.  Because almost every divorce has one guilty and one innocent spouse, when dysfunctional spouses abort responsible spouses, they automatically abort their marriage, children and faith.  If the opposite were true, there would be no divorce in the first place!

Needless to say, the MAIN cause of our society’s family crisis revolves around children.  Logic would dictate that morally ill spouses are not capable of love and will only fight for child custody mostly to make their family adulteration look decent and socially acceptable because child abandonment is still one of the few taboos still left in our society.  Although playing the role of a part-time parent fits into the dysfunctional parent’s deception, it is very damaging for the children, especially when adulterous or alternative partners also become automatic parents—because these tragic decisions are mandated by family courts, when responsible parents object to such violations, their pain and the agony of their children will be ignored.  Needless to say, most dysfunctional spouses will deny or lie about the truth even though the nature of all affairs calls for total emotional and financial needs to be directed on everything except the original family.  Facts speak for themselves—if the intentions of dysfunctional spouses were honest and in the best interest of their children, their families would never be at risk for divorce, annulments or remarriage.

To opt for a divorce, annulment and remarriage is to opt for a lifetime of cruel and unusual punishment for the original family as well as for all the blended families because instead of healing the dysfunctional spouse before the first divorce, current laws allow dysfunctional spouses to infect and victimize new spouses and children.  Because a faithful separation can offer protection against emotional and physical abuse, separation and reconciliation are the only healthy or pro-choices for ANY marriage at risk.  Tragically, even though religious and civil laws for separation have been on the books all along, they cannot be utilized mostly due to faulty leadership and favorable treatment of dysfunctional spouses instead of their victims. 

While most private individuals and experts will object or feel highly insulted by such generalizations, most will do so because they are already involved in the divorce mills personally or professionally.  Needless to say, victims never benefit from a divorce financially or spiritually while professionals benefit financially but not spiritually.  Unfortunately, even the best and most honest experts do not have just legal laws to work with—consequently, given the power of the dysfunctional spouses and the weakness of No-fault divorce and custody laws, holy rollers are as helpless and endangered as are all victims of our society. 

It goes without saying that private or professional differences about opinions are not the same as differences about basic and innate facts of life.  As such, cause and effect cycles of mental or physical adultery are elementary—religious, intellectual, physical, emotional and financial harm can be verified by applicable laws, facts and our own common sense or experiences.  Unfortunately, since violations, pain and objections of the victims are being silenced or ignored for almost 40 years, society is forced to rely on comatose, overruled or misinformed experts who follow faulty laws and force victims into spiritual and financial poverty.  Consequently, betrayal by our loved ones hurts us the most while betrayal by laws and experts causes the most damage.  How much longer should we wait for avoidable and illegal violations to continue?  Although law reforms were needed decades ago, even Pope John Paul’s appeal for “lawyers to boycott divorce” was ignored by secular as well as religious leaders.

Address of Pope John Paul II … 28 January 2002 (excerpts)

4. Countless men and women of all times and places have complied with this divine and natural plan, even before the Saviour’s coming and a great many others have done so after his coming, even without knowing him. Their freedom expands to the gift of God, both at the moment of their marriage and throughout their entire conjugal life. Yet the possibility always exists of rebelling against that loving plan:  then returns the “hardness of heart” that had led Moses to permit divorce but which Christ definitively overcame. To such situations as these, one has to respond with the humble courage of faith, a faith that supports and corroborates reason itself, to enable it to carry on a dialogue with all who are in search of the true good of the human person and of society. To treat indissolubility not as a natural juridical norm but as a mere ideal empties of meaning the unequivocal declaration of Jesus Christ, who absolutely refused divorce because “from the beginning it was not so” (Mt 19,8).

Marriage “is” indissoluble:  this property expresses a dimension of its objective being, it is not a mere subjective fact. Consequently, the good of indissolubility is the good of marriage itself; and the lack of understanding of its indissoluble character constitutes the lack of understanding of the essence of marriage.

One cannot give in to the divorce mentality:  confidence in the natural and supernatural gifts of God to man prevents that. Pastoral activity must support and promote indissolubility. The doctrinal aspects should be transmitted, clarified and defended, but even more important are consistent actions. Whenever a couple is going through difficulties, the sympathy of Pastors, and of the other faithful must be combined with clarity and fortitude in remembering that conjugal love is the way to work out a positive solution to their crisis. Given that God has united them by means of an indissoluble bond, the husband and wife by utilizing all their human resources, together with good will, and by, above all, confiding in the assistance of divine grace, can and should emerge from their moments of crisis renewed and strengthened.

9. The essential witness to the value of indissolubility is given through the married life of the spouses, in their fidelity to the bond, through all the joys and trials of life. However the value of indissolubility cannot be held to be just the object of a private choice:  it concerns one of the cornerstones of all society. Therefore, while all the initiatives that Christians, along with other persons of good will, promote for the good of the family (for example, the celebrations of wedding anniversaries) are to be encouraged, one must avoid the risk of permissiveness on fundamental issues concerning the nature of marriage and the family (cf. Letter to Families, n. 17).

Among the initiatives should be those that aim at obtaining the public recognition of indissoluble marriage in the civil juridical order (cf. ibid., n. 17). Resolute opposition to any legal or administrative measures that introduce divorce or that equate de facto unions-including those between homosexuals- with marriage must be accompanied by a pro-active attitude, acting through juridical provisions that tend to improve the social recognition of true marriage in the framework of legal orders that unfortunately admit divorce.

Lawyers, as independent professionals, should always decline the use of their profession for an end that is contrary to justice, as is divorce. They can only cooperate in this kind of activity when, in the intention of the client, it is not directed to the break-up of the marriage, but to the securing of other legitimate effects that can only be obtained through such a judicial process in the established legal order (cf. Catechism of the Catholic Church, n. 2383). In this way, with their work of assisting and reconciling persons who are going through a marital crises, lawyers truly serve the rights of the person and avoid becoming mere technicians at the service of any interest whatever.

How many lives have been ruined since No-Fault Divorce Laws were inflicted upon our society.  How many more families have been exterminated since 2002 by lack of due process and lack of action on part of all our leaders.  Given that relatively few families and spouses are left standing, a point of no return is near—Older generations and values are already being replaced by a new generation engineered to embrace self and other abuse, abortion, adultery, divorce, cohabitation, gender reassignment and all other alternatives.  Even though the older generation was silenced and overruled, at least they maintained their honor and went down fighting.  Sadly, with our new generation being raised on family and social adulteration, honor is becoming as rare as stable individuals and families.  As such, truth in information and divorce reform are not only our right but also a vital necessity … Sam Beamer … “Let your love of justice be exceeded only by your love of mercy.”